<Welcome to the Marriage Information Company> Is Real Marriage Possible? [23]

Should a woman confess her feelings first?

“Should a woman confess her feelings first?”

If someone asks me, my answer is No.

I've realized that men tend to lose interest in women who confess their feelings first.

While it might be better for a man who is passive or lacks dating experience to have a woman confess first,

Such cases are extremely rare.

When men fall in love, they primarily rely on physical hormones called 'testosterone' and 'dopamine',

'Testosterone' emphasizes aggressive tendencies, and 'dopamine' is a hormone that is more actively secreted in challenging situations.

Therefore, men naturally enjoy the hunt and the thrill of conquest.

The fact is that men with a strong desire for achievement and conquest lose their interest and tension when they easily obtain their target.

So, you shouldn't make it feel like the relationship is progressing too easily.

People call it 'push and pull' (밀당).

Based on my years of experience, I could sense a mutual attraction,

but he hadn't confessed his feelings yet.

I've experienced a 100-day '썸' (a period of subtle romantic interest) in my life, so I decided not to get impatient about this.

“Objectively being handsome is not as important as being subjectively handsome. He has to be handsome in my eyes!”

“That's right.”

“Couples hold hands even when it's hot vs. It's a bit much when you're sweating.”

“Option 1.”

“I like Option 1.”

“I suddenly remembered when you walked into the cafe on our first meeting. I thought to myself, ‘It can't be him.’

“Why?”

“Because you're tall and slender.”

“Haha, when I came in, I think I was just thinking, ‘There are so many empty seats, where should I go?’

“There were a lot of seats available. Anyway, I was surprised twice when I saw you.

The second time was when you took off your mask, and I realized you were beautiful.”

“I thought you were pretty when I greeted you and took off my mask.”

We had a lot of conversations filled with sweet and affectionate banter, and another week passed.

While we were spending the weekend with our individual schedules, he sent me a message, “How's your schedule this afternoon?”

I was so happy because I thought I wouldn't be able to see him this weekend, but I tried to control my excitement and adjusted the time.

“Ah… I have a schedule, but I think I'll be free around 6, is that okay?”

“Oh! Yes, 6 o'clock is good.”

We drank coffee at a cafe, talked about our schedules, and laughed over trivial things.

Then, suddenly, he was silent for a few seconds and confessed, “Shall we officially date?”

It was the moment I had been waiting for, but unconsciously, the words that came out of my mouth were…

“Suddenly?”

Usually, people build up the atmosphere and choose the right moment to confess,

so I was a little taken aback by the unexpected question.

He originally planned to confess tomorrow, but his schedule finished earlier than expected, so he decided to confess sooner.

He said he wanted to make every day feel like an anniversary, rather than just marking specific dates, and confessed his feelings sincerely.

I pondered for a moment.

It felt like I had waited too long to simply say, “Yes.” But it also felt too soon to say, “Maybe,” when I was so happy at that moment?

“I'll think about whether to make today or tomorrow our first day together.”

In reality, my answer was a definite yes, but he seemed to think I was actually considering it.

After parting ways and returning home, I showered and lay on my bed, and I replied to his message.

“I've thought about your question, and let's make today our first day together.”

“Yes! Why were you hesitating?”

“I wasn't really hesitating about the question, but the timing was unexpected…”

“Ah! It's difficult to find the right timing.”

“I understand that feeling. Let's have a good time together.”

“Yes! I'm looking forward to 3 years, 5 years, and 10 years from now. And of course, I'm looking forward to today too!”

After 27 days, we finally became a couple.

Countless blind dates and matchmaking introductions flashed before my eyes, and I couldn't sleep that night because my heart was pounding.