Should a woman confess first?

“Should a woman confess first?”

If someone asked me, my answer would be No.

I have learned that men often lose interest in women who confess to them first.

It may be better for men who are passive or lack dating experience to confess first, but

such cases were extremely rare.

When men fall in love, they primarily rely on the physical hormones ‘testosterone’ and ‘dopamine.’

‘Testosterone’ emphasizes aggression, while ‘dopamine’ is a hormone that is more actively secreted in challenging situations.

Therefore, men naturally enjoy hunting to conquer.

It is important to note that a man with a strong desire for achievement and conquest loses his interest and tension in a target that he easily obtains.

Therefore, it should not make the relationship feel too easy.

People call it <Push and pull>.

My intuition, built up over a long period of time, clearly indicated that we were both very fond of each other, but

he had not confessed yet.

I had experienced a hundred days of being in a relationship, so I decided not to be impatient.

“Objectively, it's not important to be handsome, but subjectively, he has to be handsome. He has to be handsome in my eyes!”

“That's right”

“Couples hold hands even when it's hot vs. It's too sweaty, I can't do that”

“Number 1”

“Number 1 is good.”

“I suddenly remember when you entered the cafe the first time we met. I thought to myself, ‘He can't be the one.’”

“Why?”

“Because you are tall and slim.”

“Hahaha, I think I was only thinking about ‘There are too many empty seats, where should I go?’ when I entered.”

“There were too many seats, indeed. Anyway, I was surprised twice when I saw you.

The second time was when you took off your mask and I saw you were beautiful.”

“I thought you were young when you greeted me and took off your mask.”

We had a lot of conversations, radiating a sweet and loving aura, and a week passed.

While we were spending the weekend with our individual schedules, he sent a message, “What’s your schedule like this afternoon?”

I was so happy because I thought I wouldn't be able to see him this weekend.

However, I tried to control myself and adjusted the time.

“Uh.. I have a schedule, but I think I'll be free around 6 o'clock. Would that work for you?”

“Oh! Yes. Around 6 o’clock is good for me.”

We drank coffee at the cafe, talked about our respective schedules, and chatted, laughing at even the smallest things.

Suddenly, he was silent for a few seconds and confessed, “Would you like to officially date?”

It was the moment I had been waiting for, but I couldn’t help but blurt out…

“Suddenly?”

Usually, people build up the atmosphere and create a moment for confession.

I was slightly taken aback because I hadn’t expected him to ask at all.

He said that he was originally planning to confess tomorrow, but his schedule ended earlier than expected so he wanted to do it sooner.

He sincerely confessed that he wanted to treat every day like an anniversary instead of just making a date for the anniversary.

I pondered for a moment.

It felt like I had waited too long to just say “Okay,” but it was too happy to say “I don’t know.”

“I’ll think about whether to make today the first day or tomorrow the first day.”

Actually, every answer was yes, but he seemed to think I was hesitating.

I returned home after our date, took a shower, and lay down on my bed to reply to him.

“I’ve thought about your question, let's make today our first day.”

“Yes! So why were you hesitating?”

“I wasn't hesitating about the answer. It's just that I didn't expect you to ask at all…”

“Ah! It’s hard to choose the right timing.”

“I understand your feelings. Let’s have a good time together.”

“Yes! I like that. I’m excited for three years from now, five years from now, and ten years from now. Of course, I’m excited for the present too!”

We finally became a couple after 27 days of dating.

Countless blind dates and introductions flashed before my eyes, and that night, my heart was pounding so hard I couldn’t sleep.