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Love changes people

They say that the easiest and hardest thing in the world is to express oneself verbally.

Thank you. I'm sorry. I like you. I'm happy. I love you.

If one person expresses [their feelings] unilaterally, it's bound to get tiring at some point, and resentment tends to build up.

My acquaintance advised me that expressing [feelings] doesn't cost money, so there's no need to be stingy about it.

My boyfriend also said he wasn't originally good at expressing himself.

He said that after watching various dating programs, he regretted not expressing [himself] more readily.

He was someone with the will and the ability to overcome his shortcomings and change,

and I was the same.

I, who tended to be a bit blunt when dating, was drawn to my boyfriend's affectionate nature.

Even if I couldn't speak in a baby voice, I made an effort to express myself precisely rather than just vaguely.

My parents, who have been married for over 40 years, once had a 'twilight war' (a period of conflict in later life),

and there's a book I gifted them at that time, based on a friend's recommendation.

It was '<The 5 Love Languages>' by Gary Chapman, who has extensive experience in marriage counseling.

In short, the book explains that since each person has a different primary love language,

it's important to understand what your own and your partner's love language is.

Words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.

If someone's primary love language is words of affirmation, showering them with physical touch alone won't satisfy their need for love,

and if someone's primary love language is quality time, giving them a luxury bag won't satisfy their need for love.

The book says that love is a skill that needs to be learned and practiced. I strongly agreed.

He said that my laughter is different when I'm laughing because I'm happy and when I'm laughing because I'm embarrassed.

So, at the perfect moment when I was getting flustered, he whispered, “You're embarrassed, aren't you?”

He says he's a bit introverted and shy in public, but I couldn't believe that at all.

He himself was surprised that he was so direct, but

it's definitely true that love has a magical quality that changes people.

Like the fox in The Little Prince, I was excited from early morning when I knew I was going to see him that day.

My close friend said to me, who was like a clown soaring into the sky and unable to come down, “Tell your boyfriend that you were originally a woman with a stoic and aloof expression.”